Loving a Woman’s Imperfections
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Posted:Dec 16, 2020 2:16 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2022 3:15 pm
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Thank you for visiting my Blog. Steve aka billnoone2 on ghee
There are no imperfect women, only women who may have imperfections.
The glamourized images of women the media props as a symbol of beauty are easy spot. I've recently seen a TV Commercial featuring a pretty 25 YO- or so pitching a makeup that promises Age Defy. I’m not making thisup . These images are common and easily recognized. They generally seem be thin or very fit, mid-20’s mid-30’s, perfect of face and figure; including incredible hair and teeth topped with perfect makeup. You can almost smell how gorgeous they are through the TV.
These are the images used tantalize young men from an early age. When puberty hits, it’s an easy transition to move from the TV to the PC, pull up some porn and use the images of “pretty girls” for masturbation. Don't get me wrong, I'm in favor of masturbation. It got through a lot of lonely nights (and mornings, and afternoons). This behavior, practiced over an extended period of time, begins to condition men to associate sexual pleasure with women having certain aesthetic attributes. This conditioning also can manifest itself in the belief that sexual satisfaction is best obtained through sex with women fitting a specific aesthetic Profile. Certainly, men are willing have sex with women not fitting the ideal Profile, but many also believe that better choices are available, and they should pro-actively seek those women out fitting the Ideal. This search for Hot as is defined by the culture and media is where harm begins, for both Men and Women.
This dynamic serves as a powerful influencer over sexual satisfaction for men and women alike. For men, the dynamic sets them on a course of searching for those women fitting the ideal Profile, passing over or not even seeing those many quality women that could offer a satisfying sexual experience simply because they don’t fit the Profile. For women, the dynamic becomes the catalyst for low self-esteem and low confidence. They sometimes decide that they don't measure , that they could never measure and behavioral problems soon show . Some women choose forgo attempts at being feminine and become careless in their dressing and personal care. The logic being why bother, they're not a "girly girl" and could never reach the Ideal. Others come to believe they could never satisfy a “ Hot Guy” because he could easily have a more beautiful woman to engage with. And while a Hot Guy may have sex with her, she reasons that she will not hold on him longer term because he is too attractive for her to keep.
This entire cycle provides a sad testament demonstrating the power of culture and Media. Thankfully, there is hope this cycle can be broken, and in fact is broken as Men and Women mature. Some do not escape these perceptions and remain trapped in sexual immaturity. For those that do, it happens as they gain in maturity and experience. Some will leave behind their boyish notions and are willing put away their Hot Wheels, Farah Fawcett posters and muscle cars in exchange for relationships of value with women of substance. They choose the Authentic over the airbrushed. When that happens, real peace and sexual satisfaction can flourish. Which leads me to the primary point of this blog entry. I believe there is true beauty in a Woman’s imperfections. Perfect is for boys. Perfect requires no acknowledgement of a woman's life journey. A woman’s imperfections is what makes her special and endearing a man.
A woman with imperfections makes men want to protect her, shelter her, please her, comfort her. Love her. Years ago, I had a special woman friend who had numerous body imperfections. Each of her imperfections made feel as though I wanted do everything I could to show her that I saw her as perfect. The first time we made love, as she disrobed I saw large portions of her torso, legs, thighs and butt covered with cellulite. She also bore the scars of several major surgeries across her tummy and also running vertically from her breast bone to her navel. Making love with her, holding her, enjoying her triggered every instinct of my manhood. I never saw her as anything less than perfect. Her imperfections were simply those pieces of her that brought her to the place where she and I met. They allowed us come together in an honest and loving relationship. It was almost holy, and yet the complete expression of being human with the passion between a man and a woman. The scared imperfect woman allowing me to enjoy her simply as a Woman.. Not as a Hot Woman or a Less-Than Hot Woman.. Rather, just as kind, considerate and passionate woman intent of pleasing me and I intent on pleasing her. It was blissful.
Everyone seems be so focused on “seeing a picture” of their potential date. This is common on this site and every other site like this one. I think is room focus on how kind and giving someone seems. Is your intended date aloof, self-absorbed, petty, and entitled, but in their picture they’re really Hot! Thank You but no Thank You. I’ll choose a kind, sincere, and engaged every time. And when she drops her clothes and you notice scars, some weight and cellulite on her legs or upper arms, appreciate her journey. You may have found a long-term lover that you can respect and value.
Please feel free comment or suggest topics for future blog postings
Thanks, Steve aka billnoone2 on ghee
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Making your Relationships Fresh and Exciting
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Posted:Oct 29, 2020 11:54 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 12:00 pm
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If you’re a Lifestyle couple, you may have chosen this path help add some excitement your primary relationship… Keep it fresh, sort of speak.
Consider your life Pre-Lifestyle. You may have had sex with your primary partner on certain days, at about the same time, in the same positions, for the same amount of time.
Yep… the predictability of this routine can get a little boring. Having this discussion with your primary partner can sometimes be difficult. But consider, how is it possible create excitement and anticipation when everything is known! This happens even if you and your partner are madly in love.
After having that conversation, the two of you decided join the Lifestyle and you’ve been having a Great Time!
But… what if those dynamics of boredom and predictability begin show in your with your chosen Couple or Single? The ones you with regularly. What are some options you might consider address that?
First, make room for engaging activities outside of the bedroom with your partners.
Go dinner, maybe movie night at an actual theater, cards or a board game. Mix it . If the routine has been that your partners show , everyone grabs a drink and begins disrobe. Really, it becomes predictable. The actual anticipation of whether you will, or you won’t have sex can be a very powerful aphrodisiac.
Second, Make your relationship broader than just sex. Find those little reasons text often. Ask about their family. Sit around and do nothing together, leaving room for discussion and understanding.
Third; Include at least 2 or 3 couples as your partners. Take turns entertaining them separately. Evaluate one set of friends and try determine who they might mix well with and then put those folks together. The mixing of your partners, and partnering them , helps create the “unknown” we always in search of.
Boredom and predictability can happen with just about every relationship. If your goal is keep your primary relationship fresh, look for those opportunities introduce Change whenever possible. Predictability is the sworn enemy of Hot! Get rid of it!
Would love read your suggestions for keeping things fresh.
billnoone2 on the ghee
Best, Steve
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Relationships; Lifestyle vs. Vanilla
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Posted:Oct 22, 2020 7:36 am
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2020 11:49 am
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Its occurred to me that as I consider the relationships I've made over the past 5 years or so, the better relationships are those where Sex is an Option! e.g. LifeStyle friends.
This could simply be the result of my growing commitment to a Non-Monogamous life, and the benefits it offers. Perhaps sub-consciously, I'm devaluing some relationships, those that are vanilla and not allowing them to blossom and fruit.
Or, it may be that those relationships where Sex is an Option, are in fact deeper and more intimate; without artificial walls or being trapped by conventional/traditional roles.
In that I'm enjoying my Non-Monogamous journey, I may be just choosing to believe that Lifestyle relationships are indeed better.
I would like to hear from others on this question:
Are your Lifestyle Relationships (where Sex is an Option) in general better than your Non-Lifestyle relationships?
Please adjust your responses so as to not consider those relationships that would simply be inappropriate (Boss/Employee, Your Cousin, etc.) or where you're simply not attracted at all to those in your relationship.
For those who do feel their LifeStyle Relationships are better than their Vanilla relationships, please offer some possible reasons as to why that may be.
Hoping we all learn something from this
Best, Steve
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Threesome Etiquette
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Posted:Oct 16, 2020 9:03 am
Last Updated:Nov 10, 2020 11:16 am
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Hello Friends,
I have been truly blessed to have been invited to play with a number of couples as the Extra-Man! I've had some awesome times and developed relationships that are rewarding and really interesting.
The key to making yourself a good Male play partner for a MF couple is to be respectful of their dynamic. Just because Hubby engages in certain behavior/activity doesn't mean those activities are open to you, too. They may be, but wait to be invited!
Another good guideline; Don't ever believe that the Woman of the Couple finds you more attractive than her Hubby - DO NOT become over-attached to the Woman. Sure, you may have instant chemistry with her; you like the same foods, same music, same type of sex. All great ingredients to a great threesome. In conversation with my men friends, many have stories about some guy they had invited over and he began to take things too far with their wife. A HUGE NO NO. Some of the best 3-Some relationships I've had were those where the Male of the Couple had an On-Boarding conversation at the beginning. Making things clear about the couples expectations for sexual activity and how to communicate with the couple. I'll admit that I too have been dis-invited from a Couple's play on an occasion. Some time afterward I was able to chat with the Husband and he politely explained where I went wrong. And, in retrospect, Yes, I should have been more respectful of their dynamics.
The entire 3-some event is intended to be a unique healthy good time. Help make it so by respecting the simple principles of Etiquette. You'll keep getting invited back!
If any in the Metro Detroit area would like to do an easy run with me, send a note. Thanks.. StevePre
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